When it comes to raising children, everyone seems to have a personal opinion, especially parents! But there are so many controversial topics! Is there a wrong or right way to raise your children? Are there things that are good and not good to do? Of course, some are more important than others. Here it is, however, a pediatrician said recently that babies should sleep with the mother until the age of three years.
Dr. Nils Bergman, of the University of Cape Town, South Africa, holds that, for optimal development, healthy babies should sleep at the mother’s breast at least in the first few months of life. Even then, he is of the opinion that babies should sleep in the bed with parents at least until the age of three, or even four.
Because of the fear generated by the propaganda made regarding the risk of sudden death (sudden infant death syndrome in children)-which suggests that a parent might turn around while sleeping and suffocate the baby-sleeping together with the child is not encouraged and in fact, a recent British study shows that in two thirds of cases, sudden death of baby came in situations where the child was sleeping with his parents.
But, according to Dr. Bergman, “when babies choke and die, it is not because of the mother. Other reasons are toxic gas, cigarettes, alcohol, large cushions and toys that are dangerous. “
A recent study monitored 16 babies while they slept with their mother in the same bed. It was discovered that the baby’s heart showed a stress present three times higher when sleeping alone. In the case of sudden death syndrome, the restless sleep of babies, and their brains do not work to make the transition between the two types of sleep, called active and passive.
In the sudden death syndrome, only 6 out of 16 babies have had a passive sleep, and sleep quality was much worse.
Dr. Bergman explained further that changes in the brain, stress hormone, can hamper the ability to form close relationships and interpersonal connections later in life.
Another study published in the journal Biological Psychiatry monitored results of 73 preterm babies who received a kangaroo-style care (Kangaroo), meaning they were held very close to the mother’s body and three other premature babies who were kept in the incubator. The study participants were monitored over a period of 10 years, with the following results:
Kangaroo-style care increased the autonomy anatomic function (respiratory sinus arrhythmia, ASR) attachment and maternal postpartum period, reduced maternal anxiety and boosted child cognitive development and executive functions from 6 months to 10 years. Around the age of 10, children have received care for Kangaroo showed an attenuated stress reaction, ASR, improved sleep and cognitive control organized better. ASR and maternal behavior were deep and dynamic, leading to an improved Physiology, executive functions, and a reciprocal relationship mother-child at 10 years.
Charitable organization The National Childbirth Trust, which supports the natural birth and breastfeeding, supports sleeping in the same bed with parents as well, in case that the parents don’t drink, do not smoke, do not do drugs, are not obese, nor suffer from chronic illnesses or chronic fatigue, all of which can affect in some way or another to the baby’s health.
But one topic remains controversial. Many believe that sleeping together is the ideal solution, and certainly was a commune until baby cribs/cots began to be accessible and convenient. There are many advantages, but it is important to take into consideration and potential risks involved. We all know that babies need to be held, care for and love; they need to feel protected and safe and how they might feel this way when they sleep alone in their cribs? Well, if we think it makes sense.
Every parent does what he thinks is best for the child, but can often be influenced by the people around them.
How many times have we heard comments like “Oh, you shouldn’t pick him up in your arms, let him cry, otherwise he won’t be independent, will be too attached to their parents ‘? In definitive, they are children and cannot be left alone. And the mother’s instinct is natural.