Every day, David, a 10-year-old boy, the mother demanded more money for lunch at school. However, he looked weaker than ever and turn back home starved. It has been proven that David gave all the money from the pocket of another fifth-grader, who threatens that he will beat if refuses to do so.
Carla, aged 13 years, moved to a new school, where she believed that integrated seamlessly with all her classmates because they were very nice to her. Later she learned that her new colleagues in the school were telling all sorts of untrue rumors and compromising about it. Carla had difficulty crying every night and inventing all sorts of health problems to be absent from school. Unfortunately, the kind of aggression that David and Carla have experienced it is widespread. In studies, most children and adolescents say aggression is present in schools.
A child student return to school can become a real nightmare. Bullying-ul can leave deep emotional scars, and in extreme situations may involve violent threats, damage to property or physical injury even serious.
There are ways to help your child cope with harassment or lies, and to lessen the impact in the long run. Even if bullying-ul is not a problem you are facing in your family at the moment, it is important to talk to your child, so it will be ready in the event that will ever pass through this situation. Identification of bullying most kids were bullied by a brother or a friend at one point. Not usually is something harmful when it is done in a playful, friendly and reciprocal way, and both children believe that it’s funny. But when teasing becomes painful, unpleasant and constant, it becomes aggression and must be stopped.
Bullying means intentional harassment of someone through physical, verbal or psychological.
It may be manifested by bumping, pushing, insults, threats and even stripping away of goods or money. Some children avoid certain colleagues, thus spreading untrue rumors about them, others are using social media networks or electronic messages in order to put those bullied in a spot by their colleagues and make them suffer.
It is important to take bullying seriously and not treat it as an experience through which your child must pass at a time. its effects can be severe and affect the feeling of security and self-confidence.
In severe cases, bullying has contributed to the tragedy, as well as suicides or attacks with a weapon in school.
Bullying- causes why children become bullies?
Children can be very aggressive for many reasons. Sometimes, in order to feel more important, popular, or to look like they have control, they are choosing the victim a colleague who seems weaker in terms of physically or emotionally or that is “different” than the rest of the class. Although usually, bullies are bigger and stronger than the victim, is not required to be so each and every time.
I think this behavior is normal because one come from families where everyone is infurie regularly and yell or hurting. Some popular shows seem even to promote evil-people are ‘ vote ‘, avoid or ridiculing for their appearance or lack of talent.
Bullying signs unless the child says parents about what happens or it is noticed injuries or bruises on the body, bullying-ul can be quite a difficult quantification.
There are still a few warning signs. Parents would be able to notice that the little one is wearing differently, is worried, has no appetite, not sleeping well or not doing things with pleasure than usual. When the child is always ill-disposed or gets upset from any, avoid certain situations (such as walking to school or other activities), it is possible to encounter bullying. If you suspect that the little one is attacked, but does not want to talk or avoid the subject, try to find other ways to talk about this in a less obvious way.
For example, it is possible to see together with the little one a similar situation in a TV show, which you can use to open a conversation by asking: ‘ What do you think of this? ‘ or ‘ what do you think I ought to make this person? ‘ This type of questions can lead to other questions such as: ‘ have you ever seen this? ‘ or ‘ did you ever experienced anything like this? ‘ You could talk to the child about your experiences or any other family member at the same age. You can also say that, in the event that is being harassed or bullied or if the witness of such situations, it is important to talk about this with you or another adult around him (teacher, school counselor, brother, relative, a friend of the family).
How you can help your child?
If the little one tells that he was harassed, listen to him calmly and offer comfort and support. Often, children are reluctant to adults about bullying stories because they feel embarrassed, ashamed or they fear that parents will be disappointed or upset.
Sometimes kids think it’s their fault, considering that, if they look or act differently, there would have been more going on that thing. Sometimes, gets scared at the thought that, if batausul will find that their parents told them, the situation will worsen.
Other children are worried that their parents will not believe or will not do anything to support them. Praise your child, telling him that doing the right thing by talking about what is going on.
Remember that your child is not alone and that many people are bullied at some point. Emphasizes that the abuser is one who has a negative behavior, but does he like him. Ensure you will find together a solution to this problem. Report the problem to the Director of the school, the teacher or adviser toolmaker.
They are able to monitor and prevent situations like this. Because the term “bullying” is used to describe a wide range of aggression, there is no unique way of operation for such situations. What is appropriate in a situation may not be appropriate in another. Must be analyzed several factors to determine the best approach to the situation (for example the age of the children involved, the severity of the situation, the specific type of aggression). In situations of bullying, you can try to get close and aggressor, with parents, but the best would be to report the issue of the teacher or adviser toolmaker.
These are the people most able to act in such situations. Most schools have regulations and anti-bullying programs, learn about the regulations of school in which your child learns. If you have serious concerns about the safety of your child, it might be necessary to search the legal authorities.
Tips for kids Parents can help children learn how they can cope with bullying-ului. Some parents would be tempted to sfatuiasca children to fight back. After all, any parent would be upset and angry if the little one would be assaulted by another colleague, or perhaps it was his parents learned in childhood.
Maybe they think the little one will suffer in silence his aggression and that fighting is the only way to get it to the fellow perpetrator. It is important for us to advise children not to respond to harassment by fighting. You can reach anyone and physical violence can be hurt. The best to help your little one of the situation is to spend time with other colleagues and to narrate about what happened on an adult. Here are some strategies that can help improve the situation.
- Avoid the aggressor- colleague uses friends from school.
Use the other bathroom if the bullies are nearby. Make sure that there is always someone around, so as to not stay alone with the abuser.
- Master your anger. Is it normal to feel upset and angry, but exactly these types of reactions they want to challenge the aggressors. This makes them feel stronger. Exercise your reactions, try not to cry or look upset. It’s difficult, it takes a lot of practice, but it is a useful skill to keep the aggressor’s chest. Some kids practice all sorts of anger soothing strategies such as counting according to 10, writing words that express a deep breath or anger, abandonment, departure. Sometimes you can teach your children to wear a “poker face” (poker player) will be safe (smile or laughter may cause the assailant).
- Be bold, go ahead and ignore the abuser. Tell the person in a way that clearly and firmly to cease and then leave. Try as much as you can to ignore insults, behave yourself as if you are interested in or not cool as you write a message to someone on the phone. Ignoring the aggressor, you look like you don’t care.
Most likely the bullies will get bored soon to tease you anymore. Tell an adult. Report the problem to the Director, teachers or school Adviser they are able to stop the bullying-ul.
- Talk about your problem. Tells what happens to a person you trust, like a teacher, school counselor, a brother or a friend. They can give you helpful hints and, even if you will not be able to remedy the situation, at least you’ll feel lonely.
The rise in confidence in oneself when faced with bullying-ul, the self-confidence of the child may be harmed.
To help the child to regain self-confidence, encourage him to spend time with friends who have a positive influence upon him.
Participation in clubs, sports, or other activities creates pleasant friendly relations and help to strengthen a sense of confidence in their own strength.
Show your willingness to learn about the difficult situations, encourage him to narrate what I liked that day and listen to it carefully. Show him that you trust him and that you will do everything you can to stop bullying-ul if you will face it at some point.
What we can read books about bullying? In the phenomenon of bullying, Signe Whitson manages to attract attention to bullying in schools, to play over the internet, as well as the fact that changing attitudes that witnesses and victims have towards aggression may effectively combat aggressive behaviors.
Through exercises and examples, Whitson demonstrates that adults can learn and implement numerous quick and accessible through techniques that can ease your life tremendously.
This volume comprises 8 strategies for parents, teachers, counselors and other specialists in the field of education. Using them on a daily basis, it may create a positive climate may CPSP combat bullying-Cyber hobby and it supports the cultivation of emotional and social skills.