The Most Important Factor To Raise Healthy And Happy Kids

Sometimes we have the impression that the world has gone crazy. Public speeches are full of anger and confusion; people sit together in cramped spaces with eyes in screens, isolated from a technology that is supposed to unite.

And everywhere in the world, parents looking for answers: How do I grow happy and healthy children in this complex world? How to reach them without her behavior punishable or Endearment? It is possible to build strong relationships in an unstable world? The answer is Yes-but we need reflection and determination.

While the Foundation is simple and complicated at the same time. When parents are wondering what I think is the most important thing to grow children able and healthy, most give the most obvious answer: love.

Kevin Plesco and Tatiana Plesco
But, as you can see many times, some things parents do in the name of love are neither useful nor effective. Children need something more than just love. Imagine a baby sitting in his crib, pleased.
Plays with their hands or legs, fascinated look, suddenly, he realizes that he needs something. Maybe it is hungry or wet, feels lonely or tired. For whatever reason, complaining to signal those that bears that care needs to be taken in his arms and calmed down. Especially for those who are parents for the first time, it may take some time until the reason for the anger of the baby is found and its need met. But, ultimately, the baby will be soothed and relieved parents often-until the next call.
How many times a day do you think repeat this scenario? Ten times or a hundred times and each time, the baby learns something about the confidence and support of the family and him now. If this cycle continues along its entire childhoods, then baby develops what researchers call an ‘ attachment ‘ safety ‘, which Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs have called a ‘ sense of belonging and value with over 100 years ago and What Positive Discipline called, simply, ‘ connection ‘.
 This feeling of being desired and cared unconditionally represents the basis of all that will teach the child later in life. Fulfillment with a consequent child needs love and is the only and the most important thing that parents (and other people involved in growing) you can do for a child. Every lesson in life that a child receives in its early years when the child and adults interact face to face: how to manage emotions, how to learn to speak, how to read other people’s emotions.
Children fortunate enough to have a secure attachment learn faster, are more cooperative and develop better social skills and emotional. Children who do not have a strong connection is likely not achieved their potential never whole.
social skill
How, then, to create a strong and durable connection with your child? It is not complicated, but requires time, patience and determination. Here are six things you can do to create a sense of belonging and value for your child:
1. Spend time together. So simple and so important. Life for most parents today is busy and stressful.
They paid bills and many tasks for which do not find enough time. However, for a child, time spent with the grown-up that you grow, face to face, without rushing, is irreplaceable. Do everything possible to find time to laugh together, you look at your child’s face and you wonder if the cat has increased. Breathe deeply and stop yourself from the daily rush. These times will not be coming back and are a valuable investment in your child’s happiness.
Bella Plesco picture made by Tatiana Plesco
2. Touch your children gently and often. One of the easiest ways we can nurture this connection with the child is through loving touches. Give it (and receives) hugs and kisses.
Take advantage of the time, changing the diaper and other customs of the day to give him a massage, comfort him and forward that you love and that you take care of him when the child angry, sometimes touches more than say the words; a hug or a subtle hair ciufulire can say ‘ I’m beside you and care about you ‘ without having too many words.
Tender gestures can convey the depth of affection and your connection with your child.
3. Listen to your child carefully unabated. When your child wants to tell something, pay attention and listen to it let the knife with cut vegetables; close your phone.
Listen to your child carefully
Descend to his level, look in his eyes and smile. You’ll be amazed at what will happen. At the end of the day, ask your child to share with you the happiest moment of the day, but also the most unfortunate; then you can do the same.
4. Play along. Many parents lead their children to play, but too few to play with them. Children learn through physical contact. Discover the world through the senses and play together with them is one of the best experiences you can enjoy together.
Bella Plesco and Kevin Plesco and Tatiana Plesco picture made by Tatiana Plesco
Let your child take command; follow her advice when you look at how you play the game. Even a video game can strengthen the bond between parents and children, especially if it’s a game where the child has the leadership, but the classic, playing in the sand, painting and building games are much better.
5. Learn to know your child. How is it to be your child? When they look at you, what he sees? You know what he likes to do, and what you think about his own experiences? If you’re not sure, it’s good to know.
6. Educate, don’t punish. It isn’t okay to spoil your child. But not to be rough with it and to apply penalties. The Latin root of the word ‘ discipline ‘ means ‘ to educate ‘ kids and evolves best when adults know how to educate them and help them to develop their skills.
Educate, don't punish
When a behavior needs to be corrected, sets reasonable limits and take care to be observed, gently but firmly. The yelling and the penalties will not be of any help. When you have a strong connection with your baby, you can turn mistakes into opportunities for learning.
You can laugh together and enjoy the hardships of parent-perhaps not even all the time, but most of the time. Eventually, both parents and children are human beings and life is never perfect.
But it is important to connect to, and then to correct. Family life can be complicated and frustrating, but the importance of the connection creates a foundation on which you and your child can build a lasting relationship and success in life.