Every day, David, a 10-year-old boy, the mother demanded more money for lunch at school. However, he looked weaker than ever and turned back home starved. It has been proven that David gave all the money from the pocket of another fifth-grader, who threatens that he will beat if he refuses to do so.
Carla, aged 13 years, moved to a new school, where she believed that integrated seamlessly with all her classmates because they were beneficial to her. Later she learned that her new colleagues in the school were telling all sorts of untrue rumors and compromising it. Carla had difficulty crying every night and inventing all sorts of health problems to be absent from school. Unfortunately, the kind of aggression that David and Carla have experienced it is widespread. In studies, most children and adolescents say the attack is present in schools.
A child student return to school can become a real nightmare. Bullying-ul can leave deep emotional scars, and in extreme situations, may involve violent threats, damage to property or physical injury even severe.
There are ways to help your child cope with harassment or lies, and to lessen the impact in the long run. Even if bullying-ul is not a problem you are facing in your family, it is essential to talk to your child, so it will be ready to pass through this situation. Identification of bullying most kids were bullied by a brother or a friend at one point. It is not usually something harmful when it is done in a playful, friendly, and reciprocal way, and both children believe it’s funny. But when teasing becomes painful, unpleasant, and constant, it becomes aggression and must be stopped.
Bullying- causes why children become bullies?
How you can help your child?
- Avoid the aggressor- colleague uses friends from school.
- Master your anger. Is it normal to feel upset and angry, but exactly these types of reactions they want to challenge the aggressors. This makes them feel stronger. Exercise your reactions, try not to cry or look upset. It’s difficult, it takes a lot of practice, but it is a useful skill to keep the aggressor’s chest. Some kids practice all sorts of anger soothing strategies such as counting according to 10, writing words that express a deep breath or anger, abandonment, departure. Sometimes you can teach your children to wear a “poker face” (poker player) will be safe (smile or laughter may cause the assailant).
- Be bold, go ahead and ignore the abuser. Tell the person in a way that clearly and firmly to cease and then leave. Try as much as you can to ignore insults, behave yourself as if you are interested in or not cool as you write a message to someone on the phone. Ignoring the aggressor, you look like you don’t care.
- Talk about your problem. Tells what happens to a person you trust, like a teacher, school counselor, a brother or a friend. They can give you helpful hints and, even if you will not be able to remedy the situation, at least you’ll feel lonely.